What weight should I be?

In sessions 11 and 12, the question of "what next?" came up. For me, I know I am going to continue into Development - don't even need to think about it that much.

But the question of what we should weigh (whoops, shouldn't say should!)...try again, the question of what our ideal weight may be depends on a few things.

Our LLC talked about two thresholds - one is looking good to everyone else and the second is the "bath test" ie how you feel about yourself in the bath. I would add that clothes are also a good indicator.

When you are losing weight this fast, people (friends, family, colleagues, etc) can see a difference - it's that much more noticeable. So they comment, positively, because chances are they haven't seen you at this weight for a long time, if at all (as in my husband's case). For some LighterLifers, this may be where they end up.

The bath test is trickier, I believe, because it's not just about how you feel about your weight but it's how you feel about yourself as a person. For me, the bath test is a self-worth test and I wonder if, having lost all the weight, will you see the new you and not like it? I will have stretched skin on my stomach; it's already apparent. I can exercise all I like but stretched skin is stretched skin. Just look at Melanie Griffiths' knees although I think that is more about a woman in denial about her age and poor surgery decisions as a result, to be honest.

Anyway, all of these thoughts just prove how much more of the journey we have to do but I feel upbeat and positive about it, even if I don't yet know which weight will be my bath test weight.

Comments

[Cath]

I've no idea on a goal or ideal weight yet either - I've set a 'goal' of 10 stone at the moment but I don't think that's my ideal (though at this moment it sounds like heaven!). I'm only 5'1" so would need to be under 9st 4lb to be in a healthy bmi --- in my head at the moment I guess I'd love to be a size 12 so I'll just see where I go with that.

Re the other peoples comments - I think the last time I lost weight when I got to my lowest (which coincidentally is the same as I weighed this morning) people were commenting on how good I looked, I felt I looked good and I just kind of gave up :( This time I'm taking the comments for what they are - compliments as to how I look compared with how I did look .... and knowing that I still need to lose a whole lot more --- this time no giving up.

I think you'll know when you're the right weight for you and it will be a mix of all of the things that you mentioned..... and you'll soon be there xx

Cath
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[Sez]

Great to read your blog, particularly this bit! I often wonder where I will end up weight wise, and people are now beginning to ask "How much more do you have to lose then? You SURELY wont need tolose much more....." (I guess they cant quite believe how fat I really am...

I know that its at least another 5 stone and prob more, but the end result????? No idea!

Thanks for these inspiring words, and meet you again on Minis!

[chrismars]

Now I'm not on LL or CD I'm afraid to set a goal as I don't want to let myself down. I shall just continue to eat healthy now and see what happens.

Things may get better once I have had a chat with the nutrionist (provding my GP will give me the referral).

Just looked at pictures of Melanie Grifiths knees. If that's what happens when you lose weigth I think I'd rather stay fat.

Chris x