Life Just Gets in the Way - 2

I realise, after my last post, I didn't really explain why life was getting in the way.  There was no context. Well, without wanting to sound tragic, this is what's going on: the job and I have parted company - it just wasn't working and now I am not working, which presents its own financial challenges!  It was all totally hideous but let's just say the bully won.  What a complete nightmare that kind of situation is and thank you to all of you who wrote and offered support. 

Second, the family pets are sick (one in a terminal way) so I have come down to my mum's, thinking she needed a bit of TLC  - as she has to stay at home for now - only to discover that she wanted to see me in person for a reason.  My beautiful dog has got cancer.  Bone cancer.  I couldn't bear to write those words last night.  I just couldn't.  And my mother couldn't bear to tell me the news over the phone - so it was absolutely right to get me here to tell me in person.

There have been many tears between yesterday and today.

The prognosis for my dog isn't great - the only options in terms of treatment are amputation and chemo' but these just give a dog more time.  I'm going to find out as much as I can today but, essentially, I don't want to put her through lots of treatment and apparently, the vet has already said it would not be her treatment of choice either.

The other news is that my husband has had a nasty accident and broken his ribs.  If he reads this, he will laugh and say he is bottom of the pile.  Again.  That isn't the case but after being a very good nurse, there is little I can do and he has insisted on going back to work!  Broken ribs need time to heal, some painkillers to get through the worst and that's about it.  No lifting, no gym, no vigorous activity and well, putting on a suit and going to the office is just about his limit right now.

So, testing times all round.  Last night I spoke to a very old friend whose mother is dying.  Literally.  We had a long chat and we agreed that 2008 sucks.  It really does.

Hope everyone else is faring better.

Comments

[shauna]

Ohh my goodness... when it rains it pours! I'm sorry things have turned so sh*t. Honestly, roll on 2009! This year has turned into a turkey for so many people. I'll be thinking of you Missus... hang in there!

[Peridot]

Oh god, oh Mrs. Don't know what to say - I am so so sorry. Anything I say will be totally inadequate but I really feel for you and will be thinking of you.

love
Peridot x

[Coley]

How awful for you. Life sometimes just craps on you. I know when my Dad was dying I went pretty haywire on the food front. It helped me cope (in a freaky bad eating kind of a way) but it left me 3 stone up afterwards. I kinda wish I'd reigned it in but when times are hard you just do what you can.

[Ameythist]

Mrs Lard I would have liked to mail you personally - however I have pasted in a beautiful poem that helped myself and my family at the most stressful times when we each have lost or were losing our pets.
I have followed your blog its ups and downs, you have made me laugh & cry you are always there giving advice, comfort and anecdotes whether on individual blogs or Minis. God Bless Mrs L you will get through it.

A Pets Prayer

If it should be, that I grow frail and weak,

And pain should keep me from my sleep,

Then you must do what must be done

For this, the last battle, can't be won.

You will be sad, I understand.

Don't let your grief then stay your hand,

For this day, more than the rest,

Your love and friendship stand the test.

We've had so many happy years

What is to come can hold no fears.

You'd not want me to suffer, so,

When the time comes, please let me go.

Take me where my needs they'll tend only,

Stay with me to the end,

And hold me firm and speak to me,

Until my eyes no longer see.

I know in time you will see

It is a kindness you do to me

Although my tail its last has waved

From pain and suffering I've been saved.

Don't grieve it should be you,

Who decides this thing to do,

We've been so close, we two, these years

Don't let your heart hold any tears.

Smile - for we walked together,

For a little while.

[Vanessa]

I'm so sorry to hear about all your news.

With the possible exception of you and the job parting ways - it sounded like a toxic situation and sometimes, the best solution is to move on. I'm sure you'll find something else soon.

Here's to a much better 2009!

[Lesley]

Hi Mrs. I turn my back for five minutes and what happens?!

Aaaah sugar, I'm sorry for your trials and especially sorry about your lovely hound. I think you're best out of the job and OH will mend (I've done the nursing thing for OH's broken ribs too and there really isn't much to be done) but doggies leave big holes (quite literally sometimes if they're diggers!) and I really feel for you.

You'll do the right thing and your dog will love you for it. I'm cuddling a wriggling Minty right now 'cos I'm upset thinking how hard it must be for you. I hope you know you have all my love and best wishes sweetie.

Lesley xx

[Ruth]

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